[Dmommab]

I definately see both sides BUT surely an adoption caseworker who was visiting a home would be able to tell several things . #1 if the family is doing it for the subsidy or not #2 if the family could handle more children or not. I currently have 3 bio children, legal guard of a 5 year old and have adopted 3 more. When we applied to adopt the last 2 (who had already been in our home for 2 years in foster care) there was "question" as to whether we could handle that many children????????????? We'd been doing it for 2 years!!!!!! HELLO???? My bio children are 23, 20 & 15 so they are not "babies". The 23 year old just graduated from college & recently got a job teaching junior high - she will be moving out soon. The 20 year old goes to college full time & lives with her boyfriend "most" of the time. The 3 older girls are A LOT of help to me. According to the state I'm still licensed to foster 2 more but if I wanted to adopt they would question it. WHY? If I can't handle them forever I can't handle them temporarily. It should definately be a case-by-case decision as there is no "limit" that works for everyone. As far as doing it for the subsidy I don't know where these people live but I get only $800 for 3 children a month after adoption so I'm definately not doing it for the money. LOL