[mackgreen]

Last December, my sister in law gave birth to a baby girl and not longer after she was taken by CPS due to b/m's addiction. We are coming up on her rights being permanently terminated (mid oct). My wife and I are pursuing our nieces adoption (home study sat.) and have many concerns and a lot of hope.

Specifically, we have been told by the b/m that we are to raise her as aunt/uncle only and that we should correct her if she ever addresses us as mom or dad. Also, in the event that she cleans up, we are to smile as we return her daughter. This is obviously a concern to us and we are worried that this is really just the tip of the iceberg. Are we naive to think that this could actually work out? How much worse is this going to get? Will it ever get better? What kind of boundaries can/need to be set? Are we wrong for eliminating the b/m's contact if she isn't clean?