"Semi-open"--Bah humbug!
We have what our agency calls a "semi-open" adoption. We communicate with our DD's birth mother through the agency only. We've never met one another. The more time that passes, I truly and early wish L could and would see our DD before she's all grown up. At 4, she has a photo of her birth mom and knows who L is and we pray for her every night. She sometimes asks if Miss L will be at the park today with us or if she can call Miss L. I have to tell her no and explain that Miss L. loves her very much. With a smart, inquisitive little girl on my hands, (she's almost 4), it's getting tough.
I truly believe that L is undergoing emotional turmoil over her separation from our DD, but from what I've heard here and elsewhere, L would be better served by seeing her. What do you all think?
Sarah
BTW, Bella came to us at 3 weeks old.
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