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Maggie - while I agree that the bonding process is so very important and also agree that she will need to bond with them without the family interference in that process, a support system could also do many other things for her to help.

Laundry, housecleaning, errands, food shopping, meals, yardwork etc. All these things can be done by others so she can focus on her children. Not to mention having the emotional support, which she'll need as well.

You may not agree with it but to label it as misguided? One can certainly point out suggestions or things to be aware of, but to tell someone their desire to love and provide for a child is misguided is a bit harsh in my opinion.