I recall hearing of a book specifically for family and friends of people adoptng older children (explaining attachment issues, etc.). Does anyone know the title? Or better yet, do you know of any articles that summarize information about attachment issues/behavior problems well for family/friends?
It feels like I am going crazy sometimes when they continue to pretend that parenting a child starting at the age of 4, who has been abused, neglected, and through MULTIPLE moves, is exactly like parenting any other child. They see M as a little sweetheart who is doing so well, because they are not around when she is being continually defiant and antagonistic. They can't understand why I am struggling so much. All I hear is, "All kids do that", "My kids do that too", and "You can't expect kids to behave perfect all the time"
Anyway, any suggestions would be appreciated
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