"Ames recommends that parents should be cautioned that the time and energy necessary to rear an orphanage child make it unwise to adopt more than one child at a time, or to bring the child into a family that already has several young children.
Boy, I know a few families that brought home 2 children at a time. And a set of twins into a family with 8 kids! Glad they never read this!
"The literature notes that the act of artificial twinning usually reflects the parents’ desire to regain control over their family planning and in “getting” a child, far more than it reflects an understanding of the needs of their children or the challengesof parenting and family life (Johnston, 20).
How does this differ from adoption in general? I do not think many of us went into this to save the world, we all wanted a child. Is he assuming that parents only "getting" one child are more educated in adoption than those "getting" two? I do not follow the logic.
Avoiding artificial twinning and promoting the need for a psychological pregnancy are the main reasons that many agencies require that couples end fertility treatments before beginningpreparations for adoption (ibid). Johnston refers to Michael Trout, a child therapist and an expert on attachment issues, who believes that healthy preparation for parenting in adoption cannothappen when adopters’ don’t give themselves the opportunity to experience a psychological pregnancy (Johnston, 22). This psychological pregnancy also benefits the adoptee by providing the child with the opportunity to be the center of the parents’ universe for at least the amount of time nature would take to bring a pregnancy to a live birth (ibid). "
I have an MBA and I do not understand what this means! I guess I should have paid more attention in my psychology classes!
Kay
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