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Shana,
Take the "artificial twinning" debate with the merit it deserves...no more than another person's opinions. There has been absolutely ZERO research that has shown that the adoption of same age non-biological children has any direct negative impact what so ever.
Is it harder to help 2 children adjust than 1? sure but that doesn't matter what age or biological relationship...2 is harder than 1. If you feel you have the ability to parent 2 children then do it.
As for the adoptive parent that said you were abusing your future children...man would they have a field day with my family! I adopted 2 non-biologically related children in 2001. Proceeded to "aritifically twin" the youngest in 2002 with another non-biologically related child 6 weeks younger...then "artifically tripletted(?)" the 2 youngest with another non-bio related child 10 weeks younger in 2003. Now I have a 10.9yo, 9.6yo, 9.4yo, and 9.2yo! All have adjusted well and are siblings in every sense of the word that counts.
Don't let the naysayers upset you. They are nothing more than people with an overly inflated view of their own opinions and too little self-control to voice them respectfully.
Blessings,
Hannah
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