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Originally Posted by Casey677
Last night they royally laid into us about dd sleeping in our bed.
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Oh I always love this one, certain persons used to say to me "you're going to suffer if you do't nip this in the bud," and I reply, "if it doesn't go well, and baby doesn't transition well, then yes *I* am going to suffer, and?"
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Originally Posted by Casey677
Some examples: letting their 4mo old scream at the restaurant to teach him that they won't pick him up while he is crying (they eventually did, but only after all the other diners around us were getting annoyed... they actually turned their backs and refused to look at him while he sat there and cried!), knocking his fingers out of his mouth and loudly saying NO, and last, not feeding a hungry baby because it wasn't his scheduled time to eat.
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OK, the baby 4 months old? Reminds me of my SIL and BIL who would let their baby cry in the bouncy chair while we all sat *in the other room* having dinner because they didn't want their baby to "manipulate" them- this little baby only wanted to join the party and who can blame him. They also let their kid scream during a retaurant meal- it amazes me. If our babe gets antsy one of us goes for a walk with babe, or we get the food to go - that's just the risk you take.
I have a darling friend, my best friend, and she often gives me unwanted advice. Mostly I ignore her. I love her dealry, I know my child is thriving with me, and her child is thriving with her- and they are parented differently. Her husband on the other hand can make me nuts, it's his delivery more than his message. He has one kid who he has never taken care of for 24 hours straight, his wife has to lock herself in the bath to make herself unavailable to answer his questions- but he of course he knows my kid better than me.
My advice, evaluate how much you need their friendship, try to ignore them if you do spend time with them, and try a few local mother's clubs, or parks to find persons who feel like you do. Good luck!