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Some examples: letting their 4mo old scream at the restaurant to teach him that they won't pick him up while he is crying (they eventually did, but only after all the other diners around us were getting annoyed... they actually turned their backs and refused to look at him while he sat there and cried!), knocking his fingers out of his mouth and loudly saying NO, and last, not feeding a hungry baby because it wasn't his scheduled time to eat.
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First, Each parent is different, and I respect that; but, we have some friends who I observed "parenting" in this manner. We choose not to see them ever! It is a really personal choice.
Casey, I am sorry; I do not understand why people insist on this competition thing, though it has happened to us a lot, almost always, actually with other parents and our dd. While I tend to be open and upfront about my feelings, I have found myself just choosing to spend less time with people who do this, avoidance. I go and do a lot alone with my kids and with my kids and my mother.
I want to talk about children's diets some but mostly want to talk about music, movies, politics (the news) with other adults. I find my parenting is very very different than many of the people that I spend time with on occasion. I think that is great and appreciate their way and mine. But. . . I do not want to talk about it (unless someone asks for input) and certainly do not want their advice about my kids. If they provide unsolicited advise, I change the subject. If they continued, I would politely tell them, "this may not work for you, but it works great for us. Every kid is different; that is why it is good that we all have different ideas about what works."
Wishing you luck and another fun adult dinner out with great weather conversation.