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casey,
((Hugs))
...guilty here... I am not going to defend what these "friends" are saying to you. However just want to add a thought. Perhaps it is insecurity which is driving them to always compare their child to you/dh/dd.
I speak from experience... My son is 7 months older than my sister's daughter. My sister and her husband struggled for many years to have P and doted on her like she was the perfect daughter. I on the other hand felt inadequate being a single mom..and often felt like my son was second best. Though I never verbalized my competition.. I was always looking at how I did things vs my sister...and it seemed that she aways did it better. It often seemed that my sister wanted to prove that she could do it better than her single sister. Lots of insecurity on both sides of my situation.
Long story short..perhaps she feels that she needs to prove something to you. If you feel you are up to it..listen, comment when necessary, correct her if you disagree with what she says... but know that she probably doesn't realize that she is making you feel so uncomfortable.
Keep up the great work! one day she will open her eyes and learn from you some great parenting skills!
Blessings,
Mary
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