[rastachris]

That's a tough spot to be in, and I'm so sorry these "friends" are behaving so badly to you AND their own child. I think you have a few options here:

1) The next time she/he/they say something that is insulting or hurtful, politely bring it to their attention and explain how what they've said makes you feel. If they're defensive and unapologetic, find new friends.

2) Spend less time with these people - it's hard enough being a new mom without someone making it harder. You seem like a very nice, intelligent person and you should be able to make some new friends pretty easily. Spend some time at your neighborhood park, even though your child isn't old enough to play just yet. Or go to the mall and stroll around. Go to different places around town where moms with small kids tend to congregate and strike up conversation, even asking about play groups and such.

I'm sure many of the other wise and experienced folks here will have many other options for you. Again, I'm so sorry that these people are like this, and I'm really sadened that they are doing to their child the things you mentioned. UGH!