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Iowa I feel for you. Our first placement was also very hard. We had a 7 yr old girl, a 5yr old boy and a 3 yr old girl. They boy had lots and lots of anger issues. They were moved in 2 months to 4 homes not including ours. We should have realized it was going to be hard with the move, but we were new. The sw showed us pictures of the little boy after b-mom was done with her style of disapline. It was horrible. The second day at our house he had horrible tantrums. He would throw things and kick, punch. He would scratch himself. Bang his head hard on the wall and windows. Later we found out that he has ramed himself through a glass door one time. We had to take down the closet doors and get rid of any furniture in his room except for his bed. Sometimes after a tantrum his bed would be on the other side of the room. These tantrums would last hours and happened about 2 or 3 times a week. The good thing was he was not hurting others or the animals. Actually when he would start feeling bad he would go hug my Lab and he would calm down. Becouse he was not harming others or the pet we decided to stick with it, but it was hard. Very hard. We finally pushed for therapy and he got the medication he needed and he turned out to be a different child. After they went home we were scared to take another child. We had to take a break and then took only babies for some times until our cw convinced us to take and older child. She turned out to be great.
Do not blame yourself you need to protect your family first and that includes your pets. If he was hurtful to our dogs or his sisters we would have had him moved. We also do not take children that like to hurt animals or other children. It something we can not handle to well. Good luck with everything and I hope things turn out right for you and your family.
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