We've been dealing with S's tantrum issues since day one.. old story. Over the past few weeks, we have witnessed an escalation of violence from her.. mostly directly at the pets, but also once at me in the form of a slap across my face when I was discussing with her why she was in timeout.
In the last week, she has bit my DH to the point of almost drawing blood (kicking and scratching at the same time), shoved J across the floor, and try to injure my pets several times.
She had a visit with Dad, Mom, and Dad's Mom (Gma) today at Gma's house. Within the first hour of being home, she tried to squeezed my cat to the point of almost killing it. (My DH heard the cat scream from outside!) Two hours later, her sister was swinging and she was standing on top of her with her feet on either side of J's neck squeezing her neck with J clawing at her neck. She later attacked ANOTHER cat while I was in the bathroom.
All of this in a few minute time span.. usually when I go to the bathroom or go to answer the phone. Always in a few minute gap when my back is turned. We've watched her like a HAWK and she seems to wait for these few moments to pop up.
One of the scariest parts is that she thinks it's FUNNY
to hurt others. It's actually very scary to me and definitely above my parenting skills.
I just can't handle her anymore and made the call to DHS to ask for disruption. I think her problems are far above what we can handle and actually on the list of the behaviors we did NOT want in our home.. harming pets being on the TOP of the list. Her sw thinks it may be better for her to be an only child or youngest child.
I just feel like I've failed this child.. but yet, I feel like I'm also sticking to my guns knowing what we can and can't handle. After more discussion with my DH, S's behavior and aggression issues were at the heart of his wanting to quit fc this week.
What are my other options? Ideas? I realize this behavior is what she's probably used to seeing... but against her sister? *tear*