[TexasJingles]

My friends call me a "techie" because I love to pick things apart. Here's my take on Love and Logic.

It's great...for the right parent and child.

For us, it works for me (and I do still give the choices). However, my dh couldn't handle it. Kids didn't quite get it either.

Love and Logic requires delayed consequences. Think of the 50's when Mom would say "you just wait until your father gets home!". The child worries about what Dad is going to do! That alone is punishment.

Ours, well, they just don't have the skills to worry about things like this yet! They've had the tar beat out of them, locked in closets, seen things you REALLY don't want to know about (S can tell you how to smoke crack and huff paint! and he's SEVEN!!). They just expect the worse...except they know we can't touch them to discipline, so they don't worry!

M took the trash out the other day and "missed" the dumpster. We got a note about it and I told him how his actions have affected him, his family, the neighbors and more. He just didn't get it! He's still learning.

Dh wants discipline NOW! He's a bill collector and delaying is not in his vocabulary. Sooooo, we moved on to Parenting with Assertive Discipline. It works, for us. Both being on the same page is important.

However, the key to ANY plan is consistancy! Whatever you use, don't slack off, stick to it.