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I can relate! Two years ago when I told my mom our happy news that we've decided to adopt through our state's foster care system she had all the same concerns as you. She even said something about if we didn't have more kids then we could afford to send our kids to private schools. ??That really confused me because first of all- no we couldn't, second of all- we just wouldn't and third of all we never went to private school she never mentioned it before so why is she using it as a reason not have more kids now?? She acted fine but then would tell everyone but us about how foster kids could hurt ours and of course it got back to us. I was really angry but know that approach doesn't work with her, neither does the trying to educate her so instead I told her, "Mom I know you have concerns about us adopting. I assure you we would never put our family in harms way. It means so much to me that even though you have concerns you trust us to do what is right for our family. I'm glad you love our sons enough to worry about them so much and even with all your concerns you support us anyway." She didn't support us, but that made her think to and now she is so anxious for us to get our new little one! I hope your mom comes around too but at first it's going to take a lot of ignoring. Good Luck.