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Thank you for your thoughtful replies on this subject. I can see you're right. I will simply have to say to the grandmother, if asked, why it is that I cannot agree to a visit at their family's house. Not something I look forward to doing, but you're right, as the mother, this is something I must do.
My kids talked to their 11 year old sister on the phone, and seemed to handle it well. I put on a timer, so each child could speak for 10 minutes to their sister, who also put on the grandmother, which was fine. That limit seemed to help them. The 11 year old told my kids her grandmother said she could go to the visit on the lake that I've been trying to plan. My dd relayed my message that that was great, I would let them know when we were going when their big sister's father and I decided on a mutually convenient time. It will be very interesting to see how the 11 year old being there effects the dynamics. She also wanted my email address. To get adult attention from some one? To manipulate and control? Don't know.
Has that happened to anyone? Where one of your children's siblings was mommy shopping? My gut tells me that this poor child is in fact--I hesitate to say a danger, but she's not a healthy influence to have around. She deserves a parent who can meet her needs, but I cannot be that parent. SIGH!
Thanks for your support!
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