We've turned down one situation and it was due to extreme medical problems in utero. The baby was already identified as FTT (failure to thrive) and although we have had two former preemies who have had this diagnosis early due to their low birth weights and related medical conditions, the majority of their "issues" were reversible after they grew. This baby's condition was due to extreme alcohol and drug use thorughout the pregnancy and even the docotrs were concerned that with her being eight months pregnant, the baby was roughly the size of a five month old fetus. Brain size was the greatest concern for all of us, including the pbirth mother.
We were willing to adopt a baby girl whose mother was HIV positive and who had begun protocol, even with the possibility that the baby still had a slim chance of being positive as well. However, the mother decided to sign over guardianship to an aunt and we were happy that she decided to have the baby remain in the family.
We still think of these two particular children often and pray that they are well.
