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Different doesn't necessarily mean unequal. When I *eventually* talk to my dd about her background, I'll talk to her about needing to be able to move effortlessly withing and between two very different worlds, both equally important.
The cultural/family traditions of my father's very proud aa family is not the same as the cultural/family traditions of my mother's more assimilated family. I want her to be aware of her differences and uniqueness as well as how others may react to her as a result of those comsmetic and mre in-depth differences. It's an important part of her learning, IMHO.
We can tell our children 'til we're blue in the face that they're no different than anyone else - but the fact is that they are different, and I think it's my job to help my daughter understand how and why she's different and what, if anything, those differences mean.
I want my child to look at others and think, oh, he/she's different - cool. Not oh, he/she's different - must be one of those [fill-in the blank stereotypes]. But I also want her to look in the mirror and be proud of ALL that she sees.
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If we have been spared knowing this sin or that, it is the grace of God alone which has protected us, not any virtuous excellence of our own character.
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Last edited by sneezyone : 08-09-2005 at 11:31 AM.
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