Our new son is amazingly wonderful!!!
He is pleasant, good natured, warm and likes to cuddle. He is sweet, and obeys well. It took him over a month to really feel as if he belongs to us. He was good before he really began to attach, and sometimes it was hard to tell that he viewed us as strangers first, then care givers, then friendlies, and now, just under 2 months home, I can say that he views us as family. His transition has gone better than we could have ever imagined.
However, our bio son threw us for a loop. We are now (two months later) in counseling with him. We thought we had him prepared by talks, books, etc., but he has reacted badly (not horrible, but just bad enough to seek help). I think his behavior was approaching a point of needing some new tactics anyway. The adoption of a child who could touch his stuff just sent him from teetering on the edge, to over the edge.
We are starting to smooth things out, and once school starts back and he isn't with our new little guy 24x7, I think things will get better - also, time is one of the best adjusters.
Every time DH and I started to evaluate the risks, we would always go back to what prompted us to start the process in the first place. We truely felt called by God to venture down this path. That being the case, what right did we have to doubt? Although, we are human, and we did go through periods of doubt - as we all do.
Put your faith in God, and pray daily for your family, your child to be, and the transition.