[angelkisses0102]

You need to talk to the parents who have been home years, not months...go to frua and read...really, really read the attachment & bonding issues. Read the parenting issues. Read and be realistic about what MAY happen.

I have more than sugar coated our story with our son...most people do NOT share the hard cold reality because they do not want to seem like they are not able to deal with it...the struggles happen much more often than reported here. Or even FRUA....and it takes years and years for many issues to surface.

If you want to be successful...be prepared. Being 'scared' isn't all bad but if you honestly don't think you can handle a child with attachment issues or learning disabilities or developmental delays...then you need to rethink your position on adopting from Russia.

JLYLE~
I am a adoptive parent twice over from Russia...one very difficult adoption, one smoother...but neither was easy... I am honest about most of the difficulties but it is impossible for anyone to understand how hard it is to have a child with attachment issues until you spend a day in our shoes.

I love my kids more than I could ever say...but do some research on the number of disruptions that happen...it is shocking and sad...

Again talk to people who have been home for years...who have school age kids....who can look back over the process and really explain how difficult it is to know how your child is doing until you can look back and see the difference and the changes...

So yes, I want to 'scare' people with the truth...because it is not always a smooth process and again you will not know until AFTER your child is home how they will do...and then it's too late. I have met people in this process who are completely unaware of what they are getting into...now that is scary!!

Karen