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What a heart-wrenching story! It sounds like the US social services failed this child, not the Kaz government. I think it is imperitive that all adoptive parent's motives are carefully screened. It is not an easy decision to adopt and one that should never be taken lightly. We did not adopt out of pity. We truly felt compelled to bring these children home. We trusted our faith.
I think a huge problem that adoptive parents face is knowing when the adoption "feels right". I think many families may go into the adoption thinking they will fall madly in love with the child the moment they meet. That is a huge misconception! Love takes time to grow. I did not love my adopted children the moment I met them. I fell in love with each of them over time. It happened gradually and at a pace I had no control over. But guess what - we also have a bio son. I did not love him the moment he was born either. It took 5.5 weeks for me to realize the depth of my love for him. It is unrealistic and very normal to not love your children from the moment you meet. And let's face it - its hard to love a toddler sometimes anyway. Let alone a newly adopted toddler whom you have no prior history with. It takes time!
When we adopted our youngest son (I'm being totally honest), I felt nothing for him when we went to court. I did not feel a connection with him, but I knew I would eventually. I was going on faith that this was the child God had chosen for us. I was so right! Now when I look at him, my heart just aches because I love him so much.
The little boy they left behind sounds very charming. I will pray for him and hope his forever family finds him soon.
God Bless!
Pat
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