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Hi Maralee,
Echoing Erin's advice to please get some counseling from a psychologist or master's-level counselor. I cannot emphasize enough how important this is.
A couple other things...
Erin is correct that you can go to school and be a mom. I know women who have done it. It might take you longer, but it'd DEFINITELY doable.
Also, your dreams of becoming a lawyer might seem less important to you once you've had a child and relinquished. Maybe not, but that's how it worked out for me: my whole life I planned on going to grad school right out of college. Instead, I relinquished a baby the summer before senior year of college, and decided to get married and start a family immediately--because grad school and my career goals were suddenly MUCH less important to me than having a child.
Finally, even if you think you want a closed adoption, pick a couple who would like an open adoption. That way, if you change your mind at some point, the adoptive parents will be willing to let you have visits, pictures, etc. If you choose adoptive parents who only want a closed adoption, and then you change your mind on what kind of contact you'd like, you're stuck.
Keep us posted....... And good luck as you assess all your options.
Nicole
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