[proyperu]

My wife and I just returned from Peru for a 2 week stay at an orphanage. Our intention was to primarily help out at the orphanage and play with the children. We currently financially support one of the girls at the orphanage are were invited to come visit. During our stay I feel in love with three sisters that are 8, 9 and 11 years old. There background is typical with the mother being a drug and alcohol abuser and the father would leave the kids by themselves. The mother would leave the kids for periods of a week to fend for themselves while the father was gone. They have been in the orphanage for 6 months now and appear to be adjusted to their new surroundings. I spent most of my day with them and did not see any display of any past issues surfacing. My wife and I took them out along with my daughter that came along to restaurants and even to a spa and treated them to a day that they never experienced before. They are the kindest and most beautiful kids and my heart breaks thinking about the future they would have. I think it would be very difficult to find a home for them, especially the three of them, and considering their age, I believe that this would work against them as well. My wife and I have the means to care for them and to provide a new life for them, but the problem is that my wife doesn't feel that she could provide the support needed to make sure they develop into healthy young adults. She is concerned with their pre-conceived background and that this will surface in the future. My question is the following: Has anyone had a similar experience with adopting three sisters that are considered older child adoption, and what was the experience like both positive and negative. In my heart I am having a very difficult time accepting the fact that my wife does not feel she can support my intention to adopt these three girls. Any help would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks