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When we adopted for the first time, we had 3 bio boys. They were 13, 9 and 7. They had to be a part of the homestudy process and had to know right up front what was going on. The homestudy workers really grilled them on it. They were asked (with us being asked to go to a different room) how they felt about it, and what did they think about having a child of color become their sister.
They apparently passed, because we were given a nice homestudy. During the long months of waiting for Rosie, they were aching for her. When she came home, they were absolutely thrilled.
There are sometimes when it's clear that the honeymoon is over (she's been home for 17 months now), but still--they are in love with her.
Now, my husband is in Guatemala on the pickup trip for our second one. When we went through the homestudy update interview, again parents were asked to leave the room when kids were interviewed. This time we left, but eavesdropped. Our oldest one said he was "kind of dreading" it, but now when we get picture updates he will nonchalantly saunter over to the computer to see. He doesn't want anyone to know how excited he really is. 15 year olds are like that.
There are certainly adjustments, but it has been good. And, now that I am an adult, I am so glad these kids have each other for adulthood.
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trice
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