[hesabanana]

My husband and I are first time foster to adopt parents, and our fs R has been with us almost 13 months (he is 17 months old). Bmom has a horrible history (has lost three other children, prison, alcohol and drugs, recently gave birth to a baby girl with multiple substance induced brith defects) but has been in a residential rehab program for the past 8 months. All involved parties are convinced she will relapse once released, yet they are going to begin the reunification process next month.
We have an attorney, the law guardian's office has been great, but DSS is pushing for the reunion (cw's boss was bmom's worker in the past and very invested), and the law is apparently on her side. Everyone tells us not to worry, R will be returned to us when she relapses, but it kills me to think he would be at risk.
My husband and I are devastated and having a very difficult time handling this. We could really use some advice (besides don't do this again---there is no way emotionally we could). I can't imagine him starting overnight visits (I'll never sleep) much less leaving us.
Thanks,
Brenda