We were going to take a toddler but they found a baby quicker. It's been wonderful.
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People have all kinds of feelings that matter but really don't especially questioning their own motives "am I buying a baby" etc... We sort of stumble around and God has worked it out for us. Get a kid and love your heart out.
my wife who works had a harder time bonding to our daughter, but she's fully attached now. I just kept reminding her....we have about 60 years with this kid...don't worry so much.
good luck.
happy to talk to your husband.
p.s. i wish more folks would go through county/state agencies and take kids with special needs, but oversees kids, private agency kids need homes to so no big deal. Good luck