Wow! I was going to get on here and post about how fed up I am with the "Chinese Water Torture" tactics of my three little ones, and especially how my husband is getting on my last nerve telling me to "lighten up" and that "it could be alot worse; we got lucky!"....
But then I read your post and I feel like the most anal foster-adoptive mom! Good for you for taking the control back, and thanks for posting some of your stories (I recognize some things that we're seeing, and our kids don't have a RAD diagnosis---well, not anymore...supposedly).
I like the token program idea. Might use that one. So far ours have had a pretty free ride, but they're not listening worth a darn. To us, it seems like "regular kids," but these kids don't have a regular history. It's probably just the honeymoon period and will get much worse in a month or two (we've had them home for 1 month). So better to assume the worst and be proactive, right?
Thanks again for your post.
