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We turned down a set of twins about a week and a half ago. It was the hardest thing I have ever had to do. I wanted to say yes because I wanted to be a mom so bad. But I knew it just wasn't the right situation for us at the time. Since that time we have had a couple of other possibilites come up. Nothing for sure yet. We will shown again shortlt, and am crossing my fingers that this is it. But I learned a lot from saying no. I became stronger. It would not be good for you, your family, or the child to be put into a situation where you felt forced to say yes. Somewhere down the road there would be regrets and problems. One time a sw made a comment that has really stuck with me. "It is hard to say no, but in the end we respect you more for knowing what you can and can not handle. We consider that a great quality." Maybe it wasn't those exact words but something very close. I keep reminding myself of that. Only you and your dh know what is right for your family. Don't let anyone guilt you into anything.
Timbo
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