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Originally Posted by BMTexas
I am a Christian and one of the hardest things I've found to do is to forgive those people who made me or at least convinced me that I was unworthy to be her mother, especially when those same people like to come to me now
and remind me. It's hard not to hate them, I know. But hate and continual anger will only bring us down. It will only tear down what I want to accomplish in my life.
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Hello Rhonda
Do they remind you of how unworthy you are or were?
I guess they are justifying their actions at that time.. Excuse themselves from responsibility.. Responsibility for not allowing you to make the decision..(I am just guessing here)
I saw that in my mom.. I saw her excusing herself when there was no excuse.. She said words (at the very last minute) but her actions and deeds were set very firmly in the direction of my giving my son up..
There are so many dynamics in this.. and heck this is a sideline in the big picture.. this is dealing with the business of who did what to whom when the relinquishment went down..
Protect the self.. Make sure they never ever do it again..
That.. to me.. is the path to forgiveness..
Jackie