[nickie's mom]

My Son is 14 1/2 months old--He has been in our home since he was a week old-- Adoption finalize January 2005. I knew his Birthmom before she was pregnant with him--She has 2 other children that she had to relinqish(don't know if that is spelled right) her parental rights the same day that she relinqished them for N. Okay--here is the problem--We have an open adoption and I have no problem with her seeing Nicholas but she only wants to have contact when she is not seeing someone. I will not allow her to bring her men friends around him. I have told her this. She thinks every relationship is THE ONE. The last time she knew that we were having a block party at church--she brought her friend so that she could show off N. to him--I was not impressed--nonetheless 1 week later--they had broke up-- I have told her that I do not want her men friends around N. and she agrees but everytime she does the same thing. After the breakups--she will call, come to the house about every week and bring him presents but as soon as another guy is in the picture--she's gone.
What I need to know is if you all think making an agreement with her. ---She can see him like every 3 months and if she misses that time than she will have to wait until it is time for her to see him again. I don't like to do this but I don't want her to feel like she can just a part of his life when she feels like it. She will always be a prt of our lives. I have always been in her corner but now I have to think of Nicholas.Let me know what you think....