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It is possible to adopt without fostering but since TPR must be done first the child will be older. Most likely not a newborn (since most women who are going to chose to voluntarily relinquish rights will have made an adoption plan instead of placing the child in state care) and maybe even not an infant. Also, it's hard to know what type of needs these children will have down the road. They may have PTSD or attachment issues steming from whatever caused them to be put into care in the first place. And since people who lose custody to the state often have their own issues (addiction problems, undiagnosed mental health issues) you may have to deal with these things genetic factors as the child gets older.
I don't want to scare you off. Adoption from foster care can really work out well for all involved. It certainly costs less and the wait times can be less (depending on what you are looking for) but at the same time it comes with it's own problems. With private adoption you have a chance to get to know the birthparents and maybe even keep in contact with them. You take the child home from the hospital and you know what has happened to them. You may even get a detailed medical history from the biological family. These things are not as common in adoption from the state. Many of the big battles you will have are against question marks. But at the same time the child may never have any of those issues. Sometimes a child can have a great start in life and end up having problems and a child with a difficult start can end up doing great. You just have to be prepared for anything.
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