[pechocha]

Hi everyone,

I'm not sure if I'm in a unique situation, we have no children and have finished our homestudy with the state agency, and waiting to be matched with a child or sibling set from the ages of 0 - 4 yrs old.. However, I have been experiencing some second thoughts about toddler adoption and I been thoroughly thinking about newborn adoption, I feel it in my heart, and I'll bet is every women's dream. By this, I mean on going thru a private adoption agency and adopt the newborn, because with the state will take years, and years.. We have the money to do a private adoption, the only thing is that for some reason my husband does not want a newborn for now... WHY?? He thinks he is buying a baby.. He keeps saying that we should adopt a toddler, and we could adopt the newborn later.. I feel a little hurt, that he only thinks of himself, or perhaps, I am being the one thinking only in myself. Anyway, I'm also afraid that I will not bond or attach to the toddler... Have any of you been thru something similar to my situation? What is your advice? Please help!!

Isa