[missw005]

Waiting 68,

It IS possible. However, the younger kids under 5 that are available do typically have bigger issues than some kids in foster care. Typically they're on the state photolistings because their fparents didn't want to adopt them, or there was no one in their county or surrounding area (they're offered the kids FIRST) who wanted them, either.

I got my oldest (who's now 6, and also, Roon 63, is struggling to realize he's not a parent, or my parent, or everybody's parent as he's got a major Napoleon complex and wants to be in charge of EVERYONE!!!) when he was 2-1/2 from NJ. I got my youngest (who's almost 4) when he was 1-1/2 from OR. But they have issues.

So you've got to figure out what you can live and deal with. Race, medical issues, behavioural, learning, developmental, etc. - but there ARE kids 5 and under out there. And I totally agree with the birth order placement - I know my son J couldn't deal with not being king of the roost. As for foster care, it's tough on your kid(s) when the others go back. Even with short-term stays like we do - 2 weeks or less - it's a lot to understand and deal with for the adults, let alone the kids!!! So not wanting to do fos-adopt is totally understandable.

If you'd like, let me know what you're looking for and I'll keep an eye out for you! There are lots of great photolisting websites out there, and some states have more kids under 5 than others. Feel free to PM me anytime!

Sandy