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Ouch! That's harsh....no one raising their hands for her, poor kid!

My dd is bossy too. And yes...she had some hard lessons this past school year. We had a lot of talks about what it means to be friends. Don't think she really had a clue, just figured like her brothers, they'd do what she asked, played what games she wanted and exactly the way she wanted and everyone would be happy. Really didn't understand "oh, if I keep telling them what to do all the time, they won't want to play with me anymore." Or even thinking "gosh, some people don't like my ideas, I can't believe it!" So yes...you have to teach, teach, and teach some more. Does take time to teach someone how to socialize and play appropriately when they didn't learn how to do that in the younger developmental stages of their lives.

Along with that...do you have playdates at home? Just some one on one time with another child does help. And under your supervision, it's easier to quietly point out "oh, but maybe Susan doesn't want to play the game that way. Let's see what Susan would like to do?"

Is she in Brownies or sports? Groups like that have helped my daughter learn to get a long better with others and at the same time, see what it's like to belong to something. Confidence goes a long way. Eventhough my daughter is bossy & has the need to constantly be in control, it doesn't mean she has all the confidence in the world either.

Lastly, I've learned something over this last year....one day Patty will be her best friend and the next day Patty is mean and she's never playing with her again! Now Susan is her best friend. And on it goes. Part of that is the school age drama too, not just your daughter.