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I get the question all the time, especially from co-workers. Not the "white" part but the "why not adopt from here?". My response is because we live in MD, which has the strictest adoption laws in the country and we could have our baby home with us for 3 months and the birthmother could change her mind. How devastating would that be.
That being said, after 3 months with our first referral we lost her (paternal grandfather decided to raise her). We were totally devastated but I can't imagine how that would have felt if she had lived in our home for those 3 months.
I think the biggest thing is that people ask usually not be to rude but out of curiousity. Be honest and take the opportunity to educate them. I don't know about where you live but there are a lot of advertisements on TV these days about how many kids there are waiting to be adopted, but they never say they are all over a certain age or have been raised in obusive homes.
Good luck with your decision and I hope it works out for you either way.
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Joan
OUR BLOG
Mom to bio son - 23 years,
bio princess - 6 years old
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1st referral - 2/4/05
Lost referal after 3 months
New referral - 5/12/05
Home Forever 12/29/05
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Accepted referral - 2/13/07
DNA Auth 6/14/07
DNA Test Done 6/20/07
PA - 9/2/07
Out of F/C: 9/13/07
In PGN: 10/3/07
KO: 10/17/07
Resubmitted: 11/30
KO #2: 12/18
Resubmitted: 2/28/08
With 2nd Review: 3/27/08 - finally
FINALLY OUT - 4/21
Antigua BC and passport: 5/7
2nd DNA auth: 5/20
Judge orders that none of the Semillas children can leave the country: 5/20 
2nd DNA done: 6/6
MP orders birthmom interviews of all Semillas kids: 6/6
DNA results at Embassy: 6/11
PINK: 6/13
appt moved 4x because order is still in place.
Visa appt: 7/29/08
Home without my daughter: 8/1/08
Finally a complete family: 3/25/09 
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