[BrandyHagz]

Sam,

The laws are very specific regarding agency policing. The bottom line, agency complaints can only be lodged by agency consumers and agency consumers are adoptive parents because adoptive parents are the ones paying for the services.

There are instances of adoptive parents filing complaints based on information they have received from birthparents regarding treatment, but they rarely get the attention needed.

I have heard of at least one complaint, filed by birthparents, that was dismissed by the BBB because birthparents are not clients of the agency, the adoptive parents are, therefore they had no grounds.

It is very hard for birthparents to make themselves heard…for one, they are going thru a very traumatic event in their life, they may feel defeated, deflated, beaten up and used…they may feel they have no recourse and even if they think they might, they don’t know where to turn. Its sad really, because without birthparents, adoption agencies wouldn’t exist, yet agencies continue to contribute to the stigma of birthparenthood by treating birthparents like they have no voice…

Feel free to quote me on anything I post here, and feel free to use my name or not use my name, the choice is yours, for the record, I am Brandy Hagelstein.