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Originally Posted By kerry

hello this is kerry i have 2 nephews am in process of adopting. am finding it so difficult to think about keeping them after this last year! they have been with is before but this time its been a year. they have alot of behavioral problems and other issues. my husband is not supportive in getting educated and i am constantly blamed for "not being nice" which is not true, i am just having a tough time adjusting. these kids have destroyed things, hurt my own children, and done other things. my husband has gotten to the point he wont even talk to me about any of it and these are HIS sisters kids. i am about ready to walk out and think it looks better and better every day.
i told social worker about things going on but nothing happened. noone really cares at my church or other groups, telling me to just give them lots of love, which i have but it hasnt gotten us closer to adjustment and i am sick and tired of being blamed for all of it. i am nearly ready to insist they go. i dont want to do that but everywhere i reach out for help, i dont get any. i want to love these kids and help them. one is 14 and i want to see him grow into adulthood. but he has admitted to hurting his brother in a sort of sexual way and now my 4 yo daughter has accused him also. husband denies it and wont go talk to anyone about it. blames me says i am making it up can anyone tell me what to do?