[ilenewatson]

Thanks for your insightful and helpful posts. She did ask me if I knew someone that is interested in adopting, and did say that it would be great if my daughter and the new baby could grow up together. When I told her on the phone that we wouldn't be able to adopt the new baby, she said, "I figured that, but I was really hoping you knew someone so that I wouldn't have to go through the agency again and we could just do a direct placement." That's where I feel the sense of responsibility from. However, after sleeping on it I do feel better about it today. I'll do what I can and tell the people I do know about the situation, and after that I'll leave it in God's hands.

And Brenda, I definitely see your point about her feeling obligated if we help find a family, but M is very blunt and straightforward, and if she wasn't comfortable with the situation, I truly believe she would tell us that and find a better match. I also told her that if she chooses to parent, that we will try to help her out any way we can.

Thanks again for your input, and Ellie, I'll email you privately.

Ilene