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thanks for feedback
Hi all, thanks so much for the responses. It really helps to have so many caring people sending thoughts and good wishes. SadieAnn--congrats on the baby---what a road you've been down, and how terrific it is that this one is working out!! Renee--super news! I'm so happy for you, and this gives us all hope that the process can and does work! Poolside--good advice on the counseling...we're going to pursue that. We did say up front via our attorney that we'd cover some living expenses..she does have insurance, so that eases our burden some. Curtis--thanks for the insight, and your courage to come back to this board even though it has brought back the painful memories. My husband and I have agreed that if she doesn't sign relinquishment w/in a few days, we'll place the baby in foster care...our attorney is in agreement. We're even thinking that until she signs, we may not come home with the baby, tempting as it is. If she's not going to sign, we don't want to have the memories of the baby here, we'd rather be with family or in a hotel until all is settled. Senokee--I'm so sorry for your loss. Every day seems to bring fresh pain, doesn't it? I'm so hoping for success for you soon.
Well, while I was gone traveling this week (for my work), my husband decided to call our pbm to see how she was doing. They got together for lunch, then drove to the beach to take a walk (we live in LA). He said she was still quiet, but much more relaxed and open away from the pbf. She shared that her mother was 20 when she had her, and is pleased she's going with adoption. Her mom apparently was never able to finish college, never had any support from our pbm's father...and has always worked 2+ jobs to support her daughter. She is giving our pbm lots of support to go through with the adoption. This helps to know! With our last situation, the **'s mother was pressuring her to keep the baby. Her mother would also like to meet us, which we've agreed to do. Odd that her mom is my age!!
So, I still retain my "this isn't going to work out" attitude...but am a little more relaxed and hopeful after their visit this week. Just 9 more weeks to wait.
Again, my thanks to all for the feedback. Being on this board has been so helpful to me.
Wishing the best to us all in our future pursuits, and my congratulations to all who've had successful adoptions...this is what continues to give me hope.
KK
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