Quick history: we have 3 children, all adopted, from same birthmother. All removed by CPS. First two went through foster care for 1 year prior to TPR and last was placed with us at birth. Adoptions for all finalized over a year now.
Got a call from social worker for birthmother. Turns out she is on runaway status, involved in a "wild" lifestyle (including drugs and parties---again), and is currently entering her second trimester.
State is trying to locate her but having difficulty.
We were notified because we have all other siblings and are the first in line to receive the baby, IF she is found and IF the infant is removed. Huge decisions to make on our part to prepare.
Of course, all this depends on whether a) birthfather is (or is not) willing to take responsibility for baby; b) there is anyone in birthfather's family suitable and willing to take the baby; or c) birthfather and birthmother are both found unsuitable and baby is removed via TPR and place for adoption.
Do we want to take on another child? Are we willing to endure the possibility that the baby may be fostered with us but end up being placed with the birthmother should she work the program?
What are the implications going to be with drug exposure, little to no prenatal care, and a huge possibility that this may occur again in another year? We are overwhelmed, concerned, and uncertain.
Although nothing has been decided, we do need to consider the choices available to us and what course we are going to follow. Right now we have 3 toddlers who keep us on the run all day every day (we love every minute of it - even the frustrating moments).
Most importantly, how will this affect our children?
We just found out today so we are still reeling from the news.
Has anyone faced this kind of situation? What was your decision and how did you come by it? Any advice from those who have been there?
We have some time, at least six months, to formulate a plan and make some decisions so we are prepared when (and if) the call comes. We just don't know what we are going to do.
Thanks for "listening".