[Pamsko]

Adoption is a tough road to walk down....and I would make sure he's willing to walk with you and support you when times get rocky and rough. My dh was a gem...but very even keeled...when I was shouting from the rooftops and crying incessantly, he was calm and collected...but emotionally invested too -- I think you need to make sure you both want this.

As for bonding...yep, in some cases it's TOUGH. Our toddler is just about to turn two years old (August) and my dh's family was here for a week. Although he's been home since January 05 with us, I became persona non grata the entire week they were here. He didn't want anything to do with me...and when they went to get in the car and leave on Sunday, he was waving bye-bye to me and my dh and cried because they weren't taking him with them...he would have eagerly gone with them. It broke my heart and a part of me grieved all day yesterday for the little boy I had so wanted...but his heart is still shut to me. Today is another day and I'm feeling a bit like we are back on square one and I'm back to having to bribe my son to look at me with chocolate...I often wonder if there will come a day when he will accept that THIS is his family..

Our baby (home at 6 months who will turn 1 yo in July) bonded instantly with all of us. He lifts up his fat little arms to our family and his smile lights up the room.

Bonding will depend on the personality of the child and you just have to be prepared for the worst and take the best...