[wvamom]

We brought our son home at 11 1/2 months of age. Like Debbie and BHouston above, our son bonded immediately with my dh--this in spite of the fact that that my dh was probably the most reluctant husband I have heard of, to adopt. Once he saw our son, however, he loved him immediately.

I like the idea of an agency seminar. In addition, do you have any friends/acquaintances who have adopted who might be willing to talk to you and dh about it? That might ease your dh's mind somewhat, as well.

Beyond that, let me encourage you: don't give up--try not to pressure your husband, but I can witness to the fact that husbands can come to agree to things their wives never thought they would. It took a lot of prayer in our case, and God's continuing presence in our lives, and some struggle as well, but we now have the most beautiful son! (not that I am prejudiced, of course!).

BTW, last Saturday the young woman cutting Joseph's hair asked if he was mine or if he was adopted, and I told her, "Both!" In fact, it surprised me that she would even ask if he was adopted--I had forgotten he didn't look like me. (If you saw me, you would laugh--I have red hair and fair skin, nothing like our handsome son!). It turned out her family had adopted her younger brother, and so adoption really interested her. It was an opportunity to make a new friend and affirm how great adoption is.

Feel free to PM me if you need additional words of encouragement.

Carolyn