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I really wanted to second what Kelleymac said about attending an adoption seminar. My husband was reluctant to adopt also, but the seminar he attended put on by our homestudy agency really made a world of difference in his understanding of and acceptance of the idea of adoption.

As far as bonding, our daughter came home at 11 months old and our son at 20 months old. I really thought Lauren was very bonded to us, pretty much from day one, but now she has been home for 7 months, I can see it was a bit of a gradual process. She never displayed any obvious signs of greiving when she first came home, but has definetly blossomed and become a very happy, loving child in the last few months.

Daniel has transitioned amazingly well. Better than I could have ever hoped for. There were a couple huge meltdowns the first few days, and we have had some bad days since, but overall he been happy and full of hugs and kisses and love for both my husband and myself from the time he came home. My husband picked him up alone and something we are continuing to work on is I can not hand Daniel to my husband and walk away. I assume he is afraid of my husband taking him away from me. So I just need to be careful of how I leave the house, and even the room, and really reinforce that I will be back.