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I have experience with adoption in two ways. My sister was adopted from Korea when she was 2, over 35 years ago. She bonded extremely well with my mom at first and eventually with me and my dad. She is happy, healthy and wonderful! My dad was also very hesitant about adopting her, but when we told him we were adopting he was thrilled. No hesitation at all.
My husband however had no experience with adoption and was incredibly reluctant but did not refuse, so I just charged forward and when we went for our visit he fell totally in love. When we picked Sophia up, she was extremely upset for the first night. She was very bonded with her foster mom. But by the next morning she was OK with me, but didn't even want anyone else to look at her. By the time we came home she was OK with my husband and now she is extremely well bonded to both of us and varies on an hourly basis who she wants to play with etc. Except she still wants mommy when she is tired or falls down or something.
My once reluctant husband is so in love with her and so happy we adopted.
I know there is an old thread, quite long, about reluctant husbands. You might try searching the archives.
Jenn
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Adoption Number 1 - Sophia Louise:
4/26/04 - DOB
6/03/04 - Accepted referral
8/12/04 - Preapproval
12/15 - Out of PGN
1/13 - Pick up trip
Adoption Number 2 - Jeffrey Matthew:
1/19/06 - DOB and accepted referral
5/3 - Preapproval
8/17 - OUT of PGN
9/18 - Pick up trip
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