[bhouston]

We have two bio sons and we adopted a little girl from Guatemala...We visited her at 5.5 months and she took one look at my husband and she was his forever! We went back at 9.5 months and she just went to him with a smile and has loved him every since...My husband bonded to her immediately as well....I did bond too but she was having nothing to do with me! That was hard but I understood because she loved her foster mom so much and it took her at least a yr to bond up with me...I would go get her out of her bed and she would scream and go to the other side of it so she didnt have to get up with me...that was very hard but I knew she was grieving her foster mom...She would go to my husband the minute he came home from work and never leave his side til bedtime...We just kept working on it...It didnt help that I broke my leg during this and couldnt walk for 3 months so I didnt even really do alot of care for her...My sons who are much older did and she is extemely bonded to them as well...She is now at 2 as bonded to me as my husband but it has taken alot of work...Because of her being bonded so much to the foster mom she did not want to let anyone as in another woman close to her...She grieved that for a long time...So even in young children this can be an issue...it just takes time...and now she actually prefers me at times over my husband! That is HUGE!!!! I was not prepared for her not to bond up to me right away...My husband yes but not me!!! So each child is different and you have to be willing to accept whatever happens when you bring home a child...it isnt always the picture we have imagined!! But...I really think the issue for us would have never been could either of us have bonded to her but her to us...because we already loved her the minute we laid eyes on her referral pics! Beth