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Well to be honest its not something alot of adoptive parents think about. Father's Day, particularly for young children, are about agknowledging and celebrating "Daddy". If an adoptive parent is thinking about it long and hard, they may realize that the birth parent wants and should be agknowledged on Mother's or Father's Day - but many aparents dont.
There are a couple of possible reasons why ...
#1) Insecurity. They are her parents therefore agknowledging another parent on those special days can make them feel like "lesser" than they want to feel.
#2) Not knowing how it will make you feel. Often times aparents ignore those days because they dont want to make you feel badly. They dont want to "remind" you of your loss.
#3) Not even crossing their minds. Your daughter has a daddy ... so in their books he is the one who gets agknowledged. Not necessarily the kindest or most generous attitude -- but it is out there.
Why cant you send HER a card for Father's Day? Saying something along the lines that you wanted to send her a special card because on the day she was born you became a Father. If they ARE insecure, I would also suggest sending her dad a letter as well agknowledging his role in her life as well.
Jensboys
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