Debbie,
Wanted to show a bit of support on this subject. I always refer to my bson's parents as his parents simply because they have parented him from a young baby. Basically I agree, in every sense of the word they are his real parents as they have been there every step of the way for him. I am his biological mother and we do have a good relationship but his 'real' mother is the one who brought him up and I certainly wouldn't try and 'mother' him now. Our relationship is totally different which is how it should be.
I never refer to his parents as adopters or adoptive parents as I have too much respect for them. Stay strong and you are right to feel the way you do.
Philippa
