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Enjoy your trip...
I have to tell you that Lexi's birthmom was the same way. We got matched and we didn't even talk on the phone. She told the SW that we WERE the couple. A few days later we had a conference call with T, the SW, hub and I. I swear we were talking on the phone for 1 1/2 hour and T didn't say more than a few sentences..
She is a VERY SHY and private person. I didn't ask one thing about the baby, just how she was feeling...My focus was on T and not the baby. I wanted her to know that I care for her.
We went to CA 1 week later to meet her. She brought her friend with her for support. Her friend did most of the talking. We spent 3 days with them and it was WONDERFUL!!!!
Our Adoption went just fine. She gave birth 6 weeks after we were matched. We didn't make it to the birth of Lexi and she thought we were not showing up.. Poor girl...
I would say you need to take your trip and think about this situation. I wouldn't want to be matched for a long time. Regina's idea was good. You would hate for the potienal birthmom to really want to keep her baby and you fork out alot of money if THAT is not want she wants. I wonder if the guy is just putting alot of pressure on her??? Hope this made sense...
My prayers are with you and the potienal birthparents...