[KatieMill]

I too struggle with what to say / what not to say. It is almost hilarious to me when we start talking about our experience....to watch people's faces....I guess whether we want the mantle or not--as families that have adopted we are in a position of educating society.

I don't always like the mantle....and hearing others' opinions, comments, questions, etc often hurts and stings.

As a previous poster said, I always try to throw in that DD's bmother made the hardest decision of her life--but knew she wasn't emotionally or financially capable of parenting a child.

I also like to throw in that as a society we put down the Susan Smith's and Andrea Yates' of the world for the atrocious acts they've commited---yet who was there to help? How much better off (alive I guess!) would there children be had they been adopted. Also, when you are parenting and become overwhelmed---there is virtually no help unless you are extremely wealthy and can afford someone to take care of your kids. Society frowns upon women that say they are overwhelmed or need some help....yet, this same society wonders aloud how can a woman give up a child for adoption?

It boggles the mind!!