All in all, I have to say we get very few saint comments, we do get a few "how lucky your kid is that you stepped up"- huh??? Do you mean how lucky am I that someone thought I'd be a good mom to their baby???
I was thinking more about this and maybe what I need to do is make a list of do's and don't's.
Answer Do's:
how we met birthparents
agency/adoption process
how and when we first met babe
how often we visit/ activities we do together
common interests/jobs
Answer Don't's:
birthfamily medical history
details of birthparent relationship
in depth reasons for placing
babe's conception
Anything else anyone would add to either list? Still thinking out loud, thanks for those of you who posted and shared how you handle things, or in your case Philippa what you'd feel comfortable with.
(and Plareb, I do like my in-laws, even my MIL
, she can just bug the cr*p out of me)